When the Universe hears you say: Try me Motherfucker

One of the parts of my E book that has sparked the most aha’s and right on’s has been this: 

"One of the first things we need to begin to examine are the boxes we have been placed in and the roles we believe we should be playing. We depend upon labels, stereotypes and identities to help shape our experience of this world. However, when we allow ourselves to live inside of an identity that does not bend, we indirectly are saying something like this to the world: “I am put together.” “I am a go-getter.” “I am good.” “I would never hurt anyone.” ETC ETC. . .

This is what the universe hears back: 

“Try me motherfucker!””

If you resonate with and have absorbed this concept on some level, you are a smart cookie. You likely have an element of creative genius running through your veins, and we need YOU in the world. 

So, for all of you creative genius’ out there, here we go. 

First off, ask yourself this question: do you have the capacity for darkness? If your answer was along the lines of ‘no’, ’no way’, ‘not a chance’, ‘NO, how dare you ask me that’, it is likely that you are also experiencing some level of anxiety, grief, confusion, rage, fear, and/or maybe you find yourself placing blame on others for the way you feel. 

In general we have been duped into believing that life should be sparkly and amazing, right? Sometimes we go searching relentlessly for answers to questions that simply don’t make any sense and other times we feel like a victim to our circumstances and so we blame others for our own experience and feelings. All of these scenarios take us out of our place of power and away from being an empowered being. When we shut off our valve for darkness, we also shut off our valve for true light. The cycle of the night is imperative for the day, in fact, we cannot see the brightest things — the moon and the stars — in the sky with out it. When the goddess Kali — the goddess of transformation in post modern hindu mythology — reveals herself in full, she shows us that her ultimate power comes from being full darkness and full light one in the same time. 

We all have have the capacity to be the abuser and the abused, the insane as much as the sane, the wild as much as the tamed. When we recognize these parts of ourself and accept them as part of the whole of who we are, we free ourselves from the shackles of should. On the other hand, when we stuff ourself into a box it may make us believe we are in control but control is a tricky thing and so we are left feeling helpless, alone, sometimes in despair.

The Universe doesn't tolerate boxes, labels and fixed definitions (stereotypes) because she is in a constant state of expansion. Remember what it felt like after your first break-up or your second or third. You thought to yourself, “I will never ever love again.” Then, low and behold, there was more love. This principle is the same for everything out there — you only have to be alive to experience this phenomena.

When you say to yourself, “I am good”, “I am put together”, “I am a go-getter”, "I would never hurt anyone”, and the universe only has ears for expansion — you are essentially asking for a trial run. . . and try you it will because life is going to expand regardless of whether or not you get on its program.

How can you break out of the shackles of should and align and expand with the Universe?

Here are some strategies:

1. Ask yourself what fixed defintions and beliefs you hold about yourself.

2. Write down examples and times in which these beliefs have been challenged.

3. Take a deep breath and tell yourself that it is okay if who you are and who you believe you are don’t always line up.

4. Ask yourself what you need in order to accept the parts of yourself you don’t like. If you don't have the answer, reach out for support.

5. Shake it out — literally. Hold onto your pervasive belief about yourself and shake it out — like shake your whole body. Scream or beat on something if you need to. This will help you release. 

6. Integrate your shadow. Give yourself time with this part. Chapter 6 in my book is all about integration and I plan on writing a post exclusively on this soon. 

7. Become part of the solution — educate people about the consequences of stereotypes and labels. 

Keep doing steps 1-7, keep reaching out for support, keep remembering that you do not have to live on the binary map that we have invented because it may make some people feel better when other people are contained. Let yourself roar.

Go outside or go grab a pillow right now and yell at the top of your lungs, “Try Me Motherfucker”! It’ll feel good to get it out there — invite in the expansion because it’s coming whether you like it or not. Sending you courage and love!

With so much respect,

Jen